Please stop socializing ineffectively and leave time for truly important friends.
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Yesterday I shared with you my Private Business Card Management Method, and today I want to continue talking about People Management.
Making friends is indeed a very personal matter, so not only does everyone have different friendship styles, but there is no standard answer. But to be honest, even after all these years, I have made many friends from different fields because of my work, but I am still not used to the intensive way of managing connections.
For example, some people obviously make friends with a utilitarian mentality. They always think that getting to know certain business owners, celebrities or opinion leaders is like getting a ticket to the upper class society. To be honest, sometimes we inevitably want to know some famous people, but if the starting point is not healthy at the beginning, this is actually very dangerous.
The so-called network does not mean that the more friends you have, the better. You know, it doesn’t mean you get the business cards of some powerful people, take photos with some big names, or add some opinion leaders as friends on Facebook…you can really call these people brothers. Without interaction, contact or some relationship support, it is difficult to maintain such interpersonal relationships for a long time.
Some people say: “Ability is one, and connections are the zeros behind.” Well, I think this statement is not bad. In my opinion, only people who have contact with each other and are willing to help you on certain occasions can be regarded as a network. Therefore, sometimes I pay more attention to the establishment of weak ties than some strong ties.
According to the 150 Law, the number of people with stable social networks for each person remains at about 150, of which there are about 30 strong ties and about 120 weak ties.
“Dunbar Number” was proposed by Robin Dunbar, an anthropologist at the University of Oxford in the United Kingdom, in the 1990s. This law is inferred based on the intelligence and social network of apes: the number of people that human intelligence will allow humans to have a stable social network is 148, which is approximately 150 people when rounded.
Of course, this is also because everyone’s social needs are different, and the relationships that can be maintained are extremely limited. If you want to be a heartthrob, you have to pay a lot of money. In other words, if you don’t have two brushes, just collecting a bunch of business cards or meeting a bunch of friends in different social circles is in vain.
Therefore, I would like to suggest that you stop ineffective social networking and stop longing for connections that are simply out of your reach! Take a good look at your interpersonal relationships and try to reduce those social activities that cannot bring you any pleasure, emotion or progress in your spiritual, emotional, work or life.
——From today on, let us cherish the relationship between people. Normally, you should care about your friends around you, not only by asking for help, but also by showing the spirit of “giving help in times of need”. This is the key to lasting friendship. Life is short, please leave time for the friends who really matter!
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Further reading
- Network management method in the era of action: sublimate “what I want to do” into “what we want to do”
- Please do this with me, manage your business cards easily without any worries
- How to build connections in the era of action: sublimate what I want to do into what we want to do
